The Importance of Winning & Losing
Updated: Jul 24, 2018
At Kings Mountain Soccer Club, we want everyone to win, but it’s important to understand that in life, not everyone always does. Instead of creating a situation where no one loses and everyone wins, let’s not fake it (leading to entitlement), instead, let’s use every loss as an opportunity to encourage players by “losing well” and every win as an opportunity to demonstrate humility in “winning well”.
At Kings Mountain Soccer Club, we want everyone to win, but it’s important to understand that in life, not everyone always does.
In winning and losing, there are opportunities to train and teach kids/players important life lessons. It would be too easy to make everyone winners and get in to the “everyone gets a trophy” philosophy.
Let’s not be lazy. Let’s teach, train, and encourage at every opportunity on and off the field regardless if it’s a win or loss.
So, what’s our philosophy on winning and losing in youth soccer?
While there needs to be a declared winner in every game (unless it results in a tie), we (as parents and coaches) need to do our best to keep the pressure of winning very low. Those that win need to win humbly and those that lose need to lose with coaches and parents expressing encouragement and approval, not disappointment and disapproval.
This philosophy is more about the journey (game itself) rather than the destination (outcome of a specific game).
#TrainHardPlayOften at #KMSC is about more than just physical and skill development, it’s about character development as well. Our intent with the #kmcrown is to help young players experience these opportunities for development through winning and losing situations. #kmsoccerclub #characterdevelopment #lifeskills #soccer
Tyler, his wife Lesley and their three kids Addison, Eli, and Henry reside in Kings Mountain, NC. Tyler is the Executive Director at Kings Mountain Soccer Club, business owner at J. Tyler Deaton Creative Services and works full time with a church planting network called Acts 29. Tyler enjoys soccer and loves seeing young players develop and partnerships strengthen between coaches, parents, and the wider community. You can follow or connect with Tyler on Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram as well as contact him via email at firstname.lastname@example.org.